When you are single and you are just entering that point in your life when you want to find that special someone, the best thing you can do for yourself and that person you wish to have in your life is to put God first. Let Him seek out that special someone for you. Don’t be quick to jump into any relationship until you know that God is telling you it’s ok for you to give that person a chance.
You’ll know when God is telling you it’s ok for you to seek that person. When you go somewhere in private and talk to God, tell Him exactly what you are looking for in a person. Don’t leave anything out and be very detailed. This is a very important step because you are asking God to send you someone who you might end up spending the rest of your life with. So, make sure you know what you want before you go to God with it. That is the very first step in having a successful relationship. Put God first and let him seek out that special someone for you. If you try to seek this person out for yourself you are more than likely going to fail at this because Satan comes in all kinds of disguises. And only God above can see through anyone and anything. Only God knows the thoughts of a man or woman for that matter. Only God knows what that person’s intentions are. Whether they are only trying to hurt you or not. So first know in your heart that you can trust God to fully make this life decision for you.
After you pray to God about who you wish to be with and what kind of person you want to be with, the next thing you should do is to let it go and trust in God to bring that specific person you prayed for to you. You will know because only you and God know what you asked for. Be patient with God and with yourself. If this doesn’t happen for you right away don’t worry. God knows how precious your heart is and He does not wish to see your heart broken. That right person that you prayed for will come at the right time because it will be in God’s time. It’s ok to go on dates, but don’t give anything that shouldn’t be given until that right person that God wants in your life comes along.
When that person you prayed for comes into your life know right off that it will have its ups and downs. And through it all make sure you always keep God first and in the center of your relationship. He will continuously guide you and show you what you can do to make that relationship stronger and He will also tell you where it went wrong at and what you can do to fix it. There were so many times in my relationship that my partner got angry with me about something. And instead of us arguing about it we just gave each other time first then we would talk it out. So when we finally did talk it out, God would have already revealed to me what the problem was before my partner was ready to talk it out. That’s just how amazing God is. I promise you it works.
For the ones that have already had their share of bad relationships see it as a blessing in disguise. You now know what you really want and don’t want. You know what to stay away from and what to hold on to. But most importantly you know to put God first. That’s the only way any relationship or marriage is going to work,
Now how do I know all of this? Because I have been through it already. But when I first started out I didn’t know what I wanted. I was afraid to commit to something that would eventually be wrong for me. I had already been hurt before I even considered being in any relationship. So, I turned to the only one that I knew for sure didn’t one, hurt me, and two, He knew how to truly love me. So, in my heart, I knew He would find me someone who could love my heart as much as He loved my heart. So, I got alone with God in a room and I took my time and had a long talk with God. I told Him exactly what I wanted and what I didn’t want in a man.
After I told God what kind of person I desired to have in my life, I let it go and trusted in Him to send that exact person I prayed for to me. As the opportunity came to date men, I knew what I requested of God. When I didn’t see that in that person I was dating, I kindly let that person go. When he did come, I knew it in my heart, because I felt it strongly. And any time an obstacle tried to stop us from being together or trying to get to know one another, God always made a way for us to come together again.
To this day, I and my husband has been together for twenty- one year and we dated for eight years before we decided to have a child together. And our love for each other is still strong in the Lord God. It’s only because of Him that we are still together. Because if we would have done it on our own we would not be together. The obstacles that we faced with God, we couldn’t have gotten through them on our own strength.
So, whatever point you are in your life, if God isn’t first, put Him first. Because if anything comes against you in your life, that thing will have to face God first. You can trust Him. He will fight all your battles for you. It will not be an easy road to travel, but always know that when you have God first in your life you will not be traveling that road alone. He will always be there with you and for you. Be blessed.